Fat and Fucked

Fat and Fucked, Ep. 17 - "I Feel Seen Through Your Artwork:" Fat Representation In Art with Craig and Jo Hayward

Episode 17 is juicy, sexy, and fun! In this week’s release, we dig into the transformative power of fat folks being seen and represented as beautiful and sexy. Your hosts talk with artist Craig Hayward (@craigsarthole) and his partner, confidante, and muse Jo Hayward about Craig’s sexy art, how they navigate their relationship and parenting when sexy content abounds, and how Craig’s creativity moves the needle towards fat liberation.  Suzy and Krista have a blast digging into discussion with the couple; the result is a fun listen! 

Krista and Suzy warmly invite listener feedback, questions, and shared experiences. Listeners can support the podcast by subscribing to Patreon and leaving reviews. Hit us up with any thoughts or stories at @fatandfuckedpod on Instagram or email fatfabfree@gmail.com. ! Keep on loving your fabulous fat selves, and catch us next episode!

 

Resources:

Craig’s art: @craigsarthole, and @arthole_a_bit_ruder

“Taking the piss out/taking the mick out” https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taking_the_piss

Toon Blast https://apps.apple.com/us/app/toon-blast/id1176027022

Crisps https://www.bbcamerica.com/blogs/10-iconic-british-crisps-and-crispy-savory-snacks-youll-want-to-try--1015254

Silence of the Lambs basement https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0102926/

Paul Mescal https://www.esquire.com/entertainment/tv/a32304100/normal-people-hulu-paul-mescal-connell/

Jacob Elordi https://www.thecut.com/2023/11/saltburn-jacob-elordi-eyebrow-piercing.html

Jeremy Allen White https://www.cnn.com/2023/12/14/entertainment/jeremy-allen-white-gene-wilder/index.html

 

Fat and Fucked, Ep. 16 - Snow Play, Sheepadoodle Snuggles, and Sexy Times: Suzy and Krista Take On Pleasure

In this episode, Krista and Suzy dive deep into the topic of pleasure, dissecting its various forms, societal perceptions, and personal experiences. They explore pleasure in a fatphobic society, the joys of feeling good sexually and non-sexually, and the cultural and gendered layers that influence our relationship with pleasure. The rich conversation evolves to cover a number of important pieces of pleasure:

• The hosts discuss the childhood modeling of pleasure for them and its long-term impact

• Gendered expectations regarding pleasure, especially in sexual contexts

• Societal and cultural influences on individuals' perception and expression of pleasure

• The role of religion, capitalism, and diet culture in shaping attitudes towards pleasure

• Understanding pleasurable sensations in various forms, including orgasms and tactile experiences

• The evolving nature of pleasure and the intentionality required to prioritize it in our lives

• The orgasm gap in heterosexual relationships and strategies to address it

- Krista and Suzy warmly invite listener feedback, questions, and shared experiences. Listeners can support the podcast by subscribing to Patreon and leaving reviews. Hit us up with any thoughts or stories at @fatandfuckedpod on Instagram or email fatfabfree@gmail.com. ! Keep on loving your fabulous fat selves, and catch us next episode!

 

Resources

 

Becoming Cliterate by Laurie Mintz explores the orgasm/pleasure gap in-depth.

Sex for One by Betty Dodson is all about masturbation and self-pleasure.

Pleasure Activism by adrienne marie brown centers pleasure within Black feminism and as a tool for change.

Better Sex Through Mindfulness by Lori Brotto explores the importance of embodiment in experiencing pleasure.

The Pleasure Gap by Katherine Rowland

 

Fat and Fucked, Ep. 15 - Fat and Fucked in a Big Sexy Way with Chrystal and Merf

Hey there, Fat and Fucked listeners!

Get ready to grab your favorite snack and snuggle into your comfiest spot because Krista and Suzy are back with an episode with the fabulous hosts of Big Sexy Chat. On "Fat and Fucked in a Big Sexy Way with Chrystal and Merf," they're chopping it up with two fat liberationist sex positive podcast hosts and let me tell you, this convo gets good!

 

In this episode, they dig into the relationship between capitalism and anti-fat bias, wonderful opportunities for inclusivity for fat bodies, tips for flying, finding clothes for your body and of course, sex toys. We also name drop some future dream guest as we share our fat idols. We always want to center fat joy, so we hone in on why being fat is actually the tits.

 

Now, don't forget to hit us up with any thoughts or stories at @fatandfuckedpod on Instagram or email fatfabfree@gmail.com—we're all ears! Keep on loving your fabulous fat selves, and catch us next time for even more realness from the Fat and Fucked crew.

 

Resources

 

Big Sexy Chat - www.bigsexychat.com, @bigsexychat on IG

Bridget Everet - https://www.bridgeteverett.net/

Aubrey Gordon - https://www.aubreygordon.net/

Gabourey Sidibe - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm2829737/

Dr. Ruth - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ruth_Westheimer

Michelle Buteau - http://michellebuteau.org/

Nicole Byer - https://www.nicolebyerwastaken.com/

Big Fig Mattresses - https://www.bigfigmattress.com/

Southwest Person of Size Policy - https://www.southwest.com/help/booking/extra-seat-policy

 

Fat and Fucked, Ep. 14 - Bold Body Love and Marvel Mayhem with Nia William

Join us for another episode of "Fat and Fucked," where we explore fat liberation, sex positivity, and embracing authenticity! In this episode, hosts Suzy and Krista are thrilled to have an intimate conversation with Nia Williams - a vibrant personality known for her confidence and creative content.

 

Discover the secrets behind Nia's authentic social media presence. Her commitment to self-love, style, and spirit has created an inclusive space for all. Feel connected to the universe as Nia, Suzy, and Krista dive deep into horoscopes and moon cycles.Suzy and Nia geek out over Marvel superheroes— from match-ups like The Hulk vs. Spiderman to fun games and existential chats about the power of Doctor Strange's cape. Nia discusses the importance of having a robust support network as an icon, a partner and mother, and she opens up about her journey towards body resilience and acceptance. Shopping for plus-size clothing? Nia's got tips and shares her favorite retailers, including insights into the world of thrifting for larger bodies.

The episode rounds out with empowering messages about embracing fat bodies, amplifying inner voices, and learning how to live authentically every day.

 

Follow Nia’s journey and connect with her authenticity on Instagram at @niaboo.

 

Want to discuss any of the topics in today's episode or have something to share? Reach out to us on IG @fatandfuckedpod or email us at fatfabfree@gmail.com. We love hearing from our listeners!

 

If you enjoy our show, please leave us a review on your preferred podcast platform. Your support helps us grow and reach more fabulous folks like you!

 

Resources

Nia Williams - @niaboo

 

Where Nia shops - Pretty Little Thing - https://www.prettylittlething.us/

Fashion Nova - https://www.fashionnova.com/

Reb Dolls - https://rebdolls.com/

Fashion to Figure - https://www.fashiontofigure.com/

Target

Walmart

Shop Cider - https://www.shopcider.com/

Asos - https://www.asos.com/us/

Forever 21

Lane Bryant

Torrid

Rainbow - https://www.rainbowshops.com/

Smash Shoes - https://smashshoes.com/

 

Ceara Corry - @ceethesexlady and www.ceethesexlady.com

 

Jersey Shore - https://www.mtv.com/shows/jersey-shore

 

The rapper Eminem’s birth name is Marshall Mathers.

 

Time Stamps

 

03:57 Confidence is key; inner voice speaks loudest.

08:09 Conflicting inner strength and external societal pressure.

09:58 Eminem's empowering rap battle win turns tables.

16:13 Embracing self-acceptance and defying weight norms.

19:46 Supportive community and fostering personal growth.

23:38 Acknowledging team effort, communication for success.

25:03 Support and honesty are key for success.

31:05 Zodiac is dynamic, not fixed; guides transitions.

34:00 Learning, self-reflection, zodiac, and nature's influence.

41:54 Appreciate diverse content, forming new relationships, community reviews.

45:58 Balancing content creation while savoring the moment.

48:41 Honor body's survival and resilience after miscarriage.

54:35 Seeking joy through breakthroughs and understanding.

57:02 Amplify inner voices, live fully, seek support.

59:07 Stay engaged with Fat and Fucked podcast.

 

Fat and Fucked, Ep. 13 - Rejecting Shame and Celebrating Movement with Intuitive Fatty

In Episode 13 of "Fat and Fucked," Krista and Suzy chat with Kiely aka IntuitiveFatty about their "Move and Mend" program and how they're working to help clients living in fat bodies to heal their complex relationships to movement. This conversation highlights the need for safe movement spaces that prioritize inclusivity and compassion for those who are accustomed to experiencing judgment and shame when they move their bodies.  Kiely flips the script to one of pleasure, empowerment, and self-care, leaving the pain and punishment behind with their rejection of diet culture, as they usher others to follow suit. We also get a glimpse into IntuitiveFatty's personal journey to ditching societal conditioning and claiming their hotness as they shed their shame and embrace their crop tops.

Remember to stay engaged with Fat and Fucked by following us on IG @fatandfuckedpod, sending us your questions about sex and fatness, and telling your friends about us. We value the voices and experiences you bring to this vibrant and courageous conversation.If you are loving the pod, please write us a review and a 5-star rating! This is an excellent way to show your support and will help us grow!

 

Fat and Fucked, Ep. 12 - Fat, Free, and Figuring It Out: Suzy’s Mid-life Glow-up

In a raw and deeply personal conversation between the hosts, Suzy Hooker opens up about her transformative mid-life crisis inspired by the principles of fat liberation. Alongside co-host Krista Nabar, this episode delves into challenging conversations about personal evolution, the struggle for acceptance, and the power of authentic living, all within the framework of fat liberation.

 

The hosts discuss the upcoming changes to their lives and friendship with Suzy relocating from Raleigh, NC to Portland, OR and continuing to record the podcast with Krista from different coasts.Suzy shares her story of how embracing fat liberation led to life-altering changes, enabling her to stop shrinking for others and start fulfilling her own needs. This episode encourages listeners to reflect on their own journey of personal evolution and the ways they've integrated or plan to integrate the ideas from the podcast into their lives. Krista challenges listeners to visualize a life that fully embraces fat liberation, advocating for acceptance and authentic living. You’ll laugh! You’ll cry! You’ll find liberation!

 

Remember to stay engaged with Fat and Fucked by following us on IG @fatandfuckedpod, sending us your questions about sex and fatness, and telling your friends about us. We value the voices and experiences you bring to this vibrant and courageous conversation.If you are loving the pod, please write us a review and a 5-star rating! This is an excellent way to show your support and will help us grow!

 

Resources

 

Virgie Tovar - @virgietovar

https://www.virgietovar.com/

https://www.virgietovar.com/books.html

Roxane Gay - https://roxanegay.com/

 

Sabrina Strings - https://www.sabrinastrings.com/

 

Samantha Irby - https://www.samanthairby.com/

 

Aubrey Gordon - https://www.aubreygordon.net/

 

Fat and Fucked, Ep. 11 - Sell Me Pants! A Conversation with Fat Positive Therapist Kayla Stansberry

In this episode of Fat and Fucked, your hosts Krista Nabar and Suzy Hooker are joined by the marvelous Kayla Stansberry (she/her). Kayla's not just a fatty with the same love for cheese and cookies as us, she's a licensed clinical professional counselor who champions anti-oppression and fat positivity, in the most delightful way! Kayla is the owner of Intuitive Growth Counseling, and works as a therapist primarily with fat folks. She is a certified Intuitive Eating Counselor, and is a fat, cisgender, queer, neurodivergent and white femme.

 

In this episode, we get to hear about Kayla's experiences with organizing a body-positive retreat, the hurdles faced in making spaces more accessible, and oddly enough, bunk bed nightmares. Kayla also raises some serious topics about body diversity, fat trauma, challenging the harmful theories around fatness, emotional struggles, and mental health. And she was a great sport in her willingness to school us in our game "Liberate me, baby" - get ready to unlearn some nonsense!

 

As always, "Be fat, be fab, and be free." You don't want to miss this enlightening episode with Kayla Stansberry - we guarantee you're in for a rich and raw conversation. Tune in, folks! It's about to get real.

Resources

 

Kayla Stansberry - Instagram @fatpositivetherapist

https://www.intuitivegrowthcounseling.com/

TikTok @fatpositivetherapist

https://kayla-stansberry-llc.business.site/

The Body is Not An Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love - Sonya Renee Taylor https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/books/the-body-is-not-an-apology-the-power-of-radical-self-love-h2x6p

 

Plus Raleigh - (fat community group in Raleigh-Durham, NC) instagram @plusraleigh

 

The Appalachian Retreat and Spa (retreat center designed with fat and disabled accessibility in mind) - https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/the-appalachian-retreat-spa#/

Instagram @theappalachianretreatandspa

The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel van der Kolk - https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score

 

Katelyn Scott Photography - https://katelynscott.com/, Instagram @katelynscottboudoir

 

Time Stamps

 

02:19 Struggling with body image, society's expectations.

13:48 Feedback from clients about therapists' anti-fat bias.

23:06 Kayle discusses fat retreat

30:42 “Liberate Me Baby” - Myth: Inside every fat person is a thin person waiting to get out.”

36:24 Sizing standards in the fashion industry are problematic

40:59 Sexual stigma for fat folks hinders conversations, dating.

47:26 Fat folks and personality development

49:44 Intuitive eating, neurodivergent, fixation meals, ADHD, nutrients.

 

Fat and Fucked, Ep. 10 - On Dr. Sexyfat’s Couch : Candid Conversations on Fantasies, Functioning and Sexual Self-discovery

Hey there, fellow liberationists! Welcome to another episode of "Fat and Fucked" with your hosts, Suzy Hooker and Krista Nabar. In this episode our resident sexpert, Dr. Sexyfat, answers a bunch of listener questions about porn, sexual authenticity, nakedness, and sexual functioning among other things.

 

Before we dive into the Q&A, let's catch you up on what's been happening. Suzy, who has a resting bitch face (which doesn't mean she hates you, by the way), and Krista, a sex therapist (not a sex educator), start by talking about the concept of Fat Joy and why it is inherently an act of resistance. Experiencing joy in the very bodies we are constantly being told to eradicate is resistance.

 

The first question we tackle is about concerns regarding the adult film industry and pornography. Krista takes a porn-neutral stance and emphasizes the need for sex education and porn literacy. Next, we explore the topic of SSRIs and their impact on sexual functioning. It turns out that these medications can affect arousal, orgasm, and desire. Krista suggests resetting expectations and being open to new strategies for sexual stimulation.

We then shift gears a bit and delve into body acceptance and fat liberation. Insecurities about our bodies can still arise in intimate situations, even if we are fat liberationists, but it's important not to let them determine our behavior.

 

We hope you enjoy this episode of "Fat and Fucked" and find some valuable insights along the way. Remember to keep sending us your questions and feedback. We love hearing from you!

 

FatFabFree@gmail.com or @fatandfuckedpod on Instagram

 

And If you’d like to support the show you can do so at patreon.com/fatandfuckedpodcast.

 

Resources

 

Dear Abby - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dear_Abby

Dan Savage - advice column: https://savage.love/savagelove/

• Known for being fatphobic, but is also racist, misogynistic, transphobic, homophobic, etc. https://blogofstench.livejournal.com/577818.html

• Articles written in Seattle’s The Stranger in which he published a fatphobic article, Fat Liberationist Lindy West published a response calling him on it, he responded by doubling down etc. This took place while he was her editor.

  • Lindy’s response - https://www.thestranger.com/blogs/2011/02/11/6716603/hello-i-am-fat

  • Dan’s follow-up to Lindy’s response - https://www.thestranger.com/blogs/2011/02/14/6753867/hello-im-not-the-enemy

Impact of SSRIs on Sexual Functioning -

Rosen RC, Lane RM, Menza M. Effects of SSRIs on sexual function: a critical review. J Clin Psychopharmacol. 1999 Feb;19(1):67-85. doi: 10.1097/00004714-199902000-00013. PMID: 9934946.

Brene Brown TED Talk on the relationship between vulnerability and connection - https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability?language=en

00:08:54 Dr. Sexyfat helps explore sexy topics.

00:15:28 Difficulty getting unbiased info about porn industry. Issues with pay for femmes in industry.

00:18:37 Porn without literacy normalizes harmful sexual scripts.

00:22:17 Ethical porn pays actors, ensures diversity, authenticity, and better experience.

00:31:51 Spontaneous vs. Responsive desire

00:32:49 Understanding sexual desire, exploring changes, resetting expectations.

00:43:12 Authenticity, connection, vulnerability, trust in dating.

00:46:29 Talking about sex, values, and timing of milestones in relationships.

00:53:17 Mindfulness exercises to stay focused in sexual encounters.

00:58:19 Mindfulness enhances sexual experience; explore novel activities.